Sir,
Your second scenario is where you and others have it wrong. We are not suffering all this pain and conflict in the world just because of original sin. (Adams). We simply die because of this sin. We also lost our intimate relationship and fellowship with God because of it.
But We suffer all the other horrors in this world as a direct consequence of mankind itself and the choices they have made. God does not cause anyone to sin. It is man (idividuals) who decide thier own destiny at this time. That is why Adam and Eve ate the "fruit". They wanted to be like God and make their own decisions. Ever heard the saying "be careful what you wish for?" They did not feel that God should direct thier lives. They wanted to direct themselves and that is exactly what most of mankind wants today too. So, we (humans) got our wish. What is the problem then? Why are we angry at God for not stepping in to do something now that we want him to, as apposed to when he decides to? Maybe, just maybe in the end. mankind will learn WHY we are not to be independent of God.
Remember that God made man Lord of the earth and put everything on earth in subjection to him. And now HE can decide how to live based upon his own desire. He (man) has abused his power given, fogetting that he was still to do things God's way, and has due to his own greed and selfishness, dominated other man to his injury.
We still all have a choice in this matter. Although man is capable of extreme evil, he is also capable of extreme love. We must each pick our own way, that is where our "free will" comes into play. No one, not even God is forcing men to continually sin and commit the acts they have commited against the rest of humanity. There are many in this world who lived lives exemplifying peace and good to all, Mother Teresa, Ghandi, Pope John Paul II, etc. They chose to live in peace with man and seek the good of humanity. We ALL are capable of this.
The only point of the scriptural reference of Paul is this; that when God does judge mankind, we will understand his judgement better. And understand his grace and forgiveness on a greater scale. For although man has sinned against man, If there is a God (and I believe there is), we (humans) have sinned against HIM to a much higher degree by turning our backs on him, rejecting his son, committing atrocities against all his creation, polluting the glorious planet he gave us as a home, and much more.
I know you won't agree. I'm sorry I can't explain it better. That is why I said in the beginning, no answer will really be adequate enough for you unless you can "see" GOD in a different way, the way I see him. But I did feel compelled to try to give you an answer anyway, even knowing you will reject it. Peace in your life always, Lilly