My first and hopefully last vent on JWD (page 2)

free2think

He says his nick will be SpawnofNvr. Funny kid

ROTFL. Can't wait to see what he posts.

nvrgnbk

You guys are my family. And you have no idea how much you mean to me.

Thanks free2think, J-ex-W, WAC, RV, BB, OTWO, and tetra!

Tetra, got some herbal meds to get me through?

The beatings that you forgot must have been awful for your mind to bury them. If your mum hadn't become a dub she may have asked for and received the help and support she needed for her mental condition.

Venting may cause you remember the beatings you've forgotten about and you may then be able to discharge any harmful feelings safely.

best wishes

bernadette

nvrgnbk

nvr. This is what is known as a toxic relationship, and since you don't wear a hazmat suit the next best thing is distance. Are you really in Germany or is that an inside joke re: Watchtower Nazis?
By the way, it takes a lot of energy to hate people. Better to pity them and consider them 'dead'.

Thanks for that Gregor! I'm not in Germany, BTW. LOL! Like the ref. to WT Nazis though.

I know and appreciate what you say about hate. I've preached that to many I care about too. Hard to take our own medicine though. I'll let it go. You guys help me tremendously.

nvrgnbk

Thanks bernadette.

You're right about my mom. She'll never get help, cause she's a Jehovah's Witness, and they're the best people on earth, blahblahblahblahblah.

I'll be ok. Thanks to the unconditional love of of you all. Some I've met. Some not. I'll get around to meeting as many of you as I can. Assuming I dont frighten you.

compound complex

Greetings Bro Nevergoingback,

I am not frightened of you nor put off by your description of life at home with Ward and June Cleaver - NOT! You're a sweet and big-hearted guy and I've been lurking at your many, many posts till now. And today I reply.
Your childhood was mine and that of my sibs. Horrid physical and verbal abuse by the matriarch. All of us, now in our fifties and sixties, have received or are still receiving professional help. The sad effects of our early life spilled - actually flooded - into our adult lives. It took a long time to get past the hate and to finally forgive, as the poor darling was so mentally off her proverbial rocker. The poison is gone. May God have mercy on her poor, tormented soul. And likewise your parental units.

You are much loved, and to translate/paraphrase yet again my favorite words from LE PETIT PRINCE:

'What is essential is invisible to the eyes; one sees only with the heart.'

CoCo Le Coeur

Handsome Dan

Feel your pain guy, your parents sound allot like mine very phony, trite, hypocritical and disingenuous in character. There are many people that were brought up by jws.parents

who can see their parents flaws, their becoming one of jws.was one of their weakness. Thankfully we can see this for are selves now and can live happily as better people and also as better

parents. On a positive note the ignorance are parents carried with them is starting to fade, as social awareness has increased on religions and the damaging effect on people that involve

themselves with such religions, we should derive some confidence from that fact..........take care and keep smiling..........HD

jgnat

Welcome to our little family, nvr. We have our own dysfunctions, but no baseball bats. I look forward to corresponding with your son, he sounds like a wit.

poppers

So sorry to hear about the way your mother treated you. I for one would be proud to have someone like you in my family.

Narkissos

((((nvr))))

Your painful memories are bringing up many similar memories, here too.

One of the most frustrating things I experienced was, when I tried to discuss some specific events of my childhood with my JW father a few years ago, to find out that he had forgotten everything about it and could not remember it at all. And I don't even think he was consciously lying. Otoh he pointed out how abnormal it was not to have forgotten such things decades later, and offered some WT-style psychological advice.

Funny how prone the most unbalanced and dysfunctional people are to question your mental health. And the ideology of groups like JWs helps them rationalise a destructive behaviour instead of wondering about it, even decades later.

Take care.

My first and hopefully last vent on JWD

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