My father just beat my brother- (page 2)

joelbear

Ashi,

Sorry to hear about what happened to you and your brother. At my house, most of the abuse was verbal and emotional.

Lots of screaming by my dad (who is an elder) at my mom and me for everything from spending too much money on groceries (he didn't believe in buying cleaning supplies) to disagreeing with him about anything.

JW Happy family moments I remember.

My dad throwing my mom's anniversary flowers out on the lawn because she told him she would rather have candy. Little 8 year old Joel went out and picked them up and tried to put them back together again.

My Dad throwing a fit when we were supposed to drive down to see my oldest niece in the hospital. He threw stuff around the house and then followed us out to the car yelling and got down on his hands and knees in the front yard and pretending that he was worshipping mom. It was a weird scene and very embarrassing and emotionally upsetting.

Beating me with a shoe because I threw a New World Translation down on the floor when I was about 6.

Twisting my ears almost off for talking during a meeting. God I remember sitting for 2 damn hours on hard back chairs at 6 and 7 years of age.

Making me lie completely still in a hotel room (at like 7pm) after an assembly while my Mom was out visiting her brother in another room with my brother.

shall I go on? perhaps another time.

Screw you Jehovah's Witnesses for all the pain you have caused.

Joel

wallaby jack

I had violent jw parents ashitika and josephus is right, a bastard is a bastard no matter what persuasion.

I don't know your circumstance but i would definitely go 'round and confront the retard, man to man while the rage still fermented within me.

perhaps you can take your brother in for a spell?

Wouldn't it be good if your brother could relate his experience from the platform with dad in the audience. (ah in a perfect world)

regards unclebruce.

Billygoat

(((((Ashi)))))

I'm so sorry. I wish I could do something sweetie.

I've lost track of how many times I've seen dishes fly inches past my face, how many lashes I've received on my bare bottom from a leather belt, or how many obscenities I've had screamed at me by my abusive father. I've lost track of how many times he's done the same to my step-mom and my brothers. I totally understand. Totally.

Please call the police. But if your dad leaves, that would be the best thing in the world for your family. But if he is the typical abuser, he'll make the threat and never follow through. If he leaves he won't have anyone to control and he knows that. My father has left my step-mom several times always coming back making futile promises of changed behavior. Please be careful dear! I hope you don't mind, but I'll be saying prayers.

(((((:X :X :X))))))

Andi

silentlambs

You might confront your father and tell him the next time he does this you are going to turn him in. For him to do this in front of your wife shows he must be out of control. Perhaps to let him know you are going to be watching might slow him down. This is just a suggestion as I am not familiar with all information about your situation. I think you must be upset as you would not be posting here. When you start talking about it then the next step is taking positive action. In another life I would have said go to the elders, now, I do not think so, yet the man must be confronted in some way to let him know his behavior is not acceptable. Hope this is helpful, you might wish to check the domestic violence link on my website at the assistance button. Helpful resources and suggestions are given there. Hope this helps.

anewperson

No, don't warn him. Just send a note to Family Services or the police. If you try verbally warning him he may beat the living day lights out of you.

teejay

If it were me, I'd go over there and kick Daddy's ass.

Bang

I'm sorry that I don't live next door so I could ask him to beat me too, or instead.

Call the cops and social services, and, go around to the local JW hall leader's place (even better, to the wife in the middle of the day) and explain that you lay the responsibility of this at their feet before God, as it is they that have directed his religion. Be firm in saying that whether or not they accept any responsiblity, Jehovah is your witness in the matter - be alarming and polite.

I imagine they will reprimand him, but it'll only be an interim measure. He'll tone it down for a while, but because he shows up and agrees with 'jehovah', the local dubs will back his pride soon enough.

Bang

25ashitaka25

Let me respond to everybody.

My father is a career abuser. I've had more variations of violence done to me then Ghengis Khan did to the mongols.

For one, I would gladly kick his ass, but I don't want to go to prison.

Two, I would send a note to family services, but I don't know if the children would be removed from the home-this is expressly against my good mother's wishes.

Three, he cannot be confronted because he is not rational. He will read scripture upon scripture to dignify his actions. He is out of his mind because of the JW's ALLOWING him to continue in his abusive ways. I have complained to them for the first 20 of my life. They blamed it on me and 'encouraged' me to become a better child. They will do the same to my brother.

I am planning something big for him right now, something legal, and something that will alter his f**king life forever. I will find a way to make him financially responsible while evicting him from his home, with maximum humiliation. I'm rolling....

ashi

OUTLAW

Good! Nail his ass to the barn door!...OUTLAW

Andee

Ashi,

It may be against your Mother's wishes to have him (any other kids?)
from the home, but you know, this is about YOUR BROTHER. Your Mother obivously cannot protect him, SO DO WHAT IS IN HIS BEST INTERESTS. Try to get him the heck out of there!

I don't know what the laws are in your state, PLEASE contact the authorities, NOW.

Andee

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