Wow,
Alot of comments here. Okay first I am a LPN who has worked in several different fields of medicine each requiring additional training, and certification. One of those includes a woman's shelter program where I recieved over 100 hours of training. And saw hands on this scenerio several times.
When I said What has happened is not anything that has not happened before I meant, this family is used to being abused. It is a cycle that they have gotten used to. Anyone of you who have been in this type of home, knows what I am talking about.
I also said. And it appears his little spat is over for tonight. This is usually part of the cycle. The abuser loses it, attacks, then the make up phase occurs. Where all family members acts as if nothing happened. As Ashi has already posted, this has already happened, everything is forgiven and his wife is told to hush about it. In my initial post I told Ash how serious this was, commenting that death can be an end result. I am not in anyway demeaning this at all.
For all of you who have idealized ideas about our country and the laws that are in place...Please take note.
The police will arrive, perhaps they arrest him, that is dependent on the story of the son and the mother. At this point who is to say they will testify against him? Okay so bring in Ashi's wife...which will be a bigger strain on the picture, and she accuses him, and he goes to jail. The probability of him being arrested toinight is very slim.
What do you think the wife will do in this situation? Do you think mentally she feels secure enough to end the abuse? Obviously not, she has already forgiven him. If she is not ready to back up her children, the 14 year old is left in the home, the likely hood of him being removed is soooooo narrow I cannot even tell you, it makes me sick. Even if this does start the ball rolling for social service intervention. That takes a good 3-10 days, the whole time, Daddy dearest has to unleash the rage from being arrested, or to play nicey nice and reprogram his family again.
This is a cycle, a pattern that is destined to be repeated, over and over again. If Ashi does go in tomorrow and speak to someone, force them by his presence, instead of making a call. Then the likelihood of a happy ending is more real. The mother, and the son need to be counseled on how to stop the abuse. They need to feel safe now, and the only way for them to feel this way, is a long term goal.
Plus, no offense but you are asking alot from a person who has suffered this abuse himself. He realizes, all of the implications. He is young himself, and has his own family, the burden he must feel now is unimaginable. I just wanted to let him know that calling the police is not the only option. Everyone here will want to know how this turns out. Many are enraged, and want fast answers. But, you are pushing Ashi to make a fast decision on a problem that does not have fast solutions.
As I said before, the way the system should work, is not the way the system works. I am sorry to say, but that is a fact.
wendy
When I leave, you will know I have been here
