Lurkers who may be studying with Jehovah's Witnesses,
Doesn't this thread just make you eager to become a part of "Jehovah's happy organization"?
If you value your family and your freedom, RUN in the opposite direction!
I HATE this religion
by brotherdan 388 Replies latest watchtower beliefs
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stuckinamovement
Hang in Brother Dan,
Give it some time. Miss Knot gave you some sound advice. Just be her friend, focus on the bible, ask her to read with you one chapter a night. Reading the bible by itself without the filter of the Literature will help your wife to see the major differences between what is taught as truth and what "the bible really teaches"
Take Care of that little guy. You and I are are not so different.
SIAM
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brotherdan
I actually am following alot of advice here.
You guys seriously make me speechless. I NEVER received this kind of care and concern from within the cong. Seriously, it is amazing that I can have some friends that I've never even met be closer to me than people I grew up around.
By the way, I've brought up studying the bible together and her response was very mature..."It bothers my conscience to study with you, just like it bothers your conscience to go to meetings."The only thing I could think of was to say, then lets just read the Bible without any commentary. That way what we are learning isn't coming from men.
Then she brought up talking to an ex worldly boyfriend. Good stuff. The funny thing is that when we were dating she told me that he was trying to tell her all about the organizations history. How ironic...
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Mad Sweeney
Dan, I didn't read pages 2 through 5 of the thread yet but wanted to say I agree with the ones who suggest you be straight up with your kid.
You don't need to read him Crisis of Conscience or anything, just keep it simple: I don't believe it's true anymore.
If he pushes, you can explain to him how it is like "worldly kids" believe in Santa Claus until they are 8 or 9 years old and then they learn it was all a trick played on them by adults; well, that is what you think Jehovah's Witnesses are doing to people who go to meetings - playing a trick by teaching people things that are untrue.
Your wife will come around. This is still a VERY FRESH wound to her and she thinks by pouting she can get her way. Once she figures out you're for real and not doing any of this on a whim, she'll have to straighten up.
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brotherdan
Well it looks like she is moving to Denver with her friend. She just broke the news to me. She's been planning it this whole time.
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CuriousButterfly
OMG as in her male friend? Dan I am SOOO sorry. Is she moving because of your WTS doubts or just in general? ((hugs))
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tec
I have to go to work... but NOW you have to talk to a lawyer. Find out if she is even allowed to do that (take your son away like that), and get it stopped. I don't know how far away Denver is from where you live, mind you. Just find out what your rights are here, Dan.
I'll check in when I get home from work.
Tammy
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cult classic
Then she brought up talking to an ex worldly boyfriend. Good stuff. The funny thing is that when we were dating she told me that he was trying to tell her all about the organizations history. How ironic...
Ok. I hope I make some sense here.
A while after we left the borg, I had a meltdown. I went back and challenged every decision I'd made since my baptism at 17. And I do mean every decision, including marrying my husband. We have a good marriage. We're best friends and left the religion together. But because of my regret at having wasted some good youthful years in the crap, he got lumped in with those decisions. I thought about past romantic opportunities and pondered how my life would have been different.
I share this just to point out that maybe this isn't that uncommon. It is a blow to have to give up goals and dreams in a marriage. Although that is true of every marriage (more or less), maybe this is just a part of the process of change within your marriage. In coming to grips with feelings of regret, I realized that I still love my husband very much.
And I'm sure your wife loves you too. Sometimes as women we do and say things based on emotions first. But the rational side of the brain comes around in time. Please hang in there!
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brotherdan
No, it's a JW girlfriend that she is moving with. I feel sick to my stomach.
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VampireDCLXV
OMFG!!! The hypocrisy... She's completely lost her mind. Soooooo sorry to hear that.
It just keeps getting better and better...
V665