spilled the beans (page 15)

Billy the Ex-Bethelite

Well, thecrushed, look on the bright side. Your situation has reminded me how happy I am that I didn't get married in the cult.

As far as what to say to help you... ... well, she certainly needs to get a life. If she's really getting on your nerves, you need to teach her how it feels.

What did you do this morning after I left for work?
Then what did you do?
Did you call anybody?
What did you eat?
Did anybody come by the house?
Did you watch TV?
What alcohol did you drink?
Did you look at the men on TV and wish you were married to them instead of me?
...

I had to start using stuff like that on my mom at a couple of points in my life until she got tired of being watched like a hawk and left me alone.

Okay, just read a bit more. Dude...sounds like she's the one who needs some serious help here. The sad thing is, even if you were caught by elders, you couldn't rat her out on the pills because she would walk for that in a heartbeat as reward for turning you in, I guarantee it. Not that ratting her out would make any sense, just...had a thought there.

She's undermining you, man. Who you are is being crushed into nothing. It's wrong, and you have to push back or this is going to squeeze you into oblivion. It has to start with all the little fires you can create and build into a true uprising. [Cue 'The Dark Knight Rises' chant] Because you're feeding her every time you let her step on you. She becomes stronger and more than she really is with every piece of your territory she takes.

You are not enemies, but if that's what it takes, well...

It actually hurts me to hear a story like this. I'm lucky by comparison, really lucky. You may be more ready to do battle than you think you are. Buy yourself as much time as you can to grow smarter and stronger. And when the time is right, "Rise and rise again, until lambs become lions." One day at a time, build your victory. It will come. And it will be sweet when it arrives.

--sd-7

oompa

sorry i missed this til now crushed....been there done that it seems...and i only made it through the first few pages....painful memories...you should just call me actually...........oompa

my biggest regret is not framing it from the begining that we needed to CONFIRM or RE-CONFIRM our beliefs (see that is not DOUBTING OR QUESTIONING, NOR RUNNING AHEAD)...together...and for the first time ever like the good ol beoreans........you dont get to that as a child jw

oompa

So you have no privacy basically...why do you let her stand behind you in your own studio? does she wipe your ass too? in other words there IS a time to request some privacy...and there is nothing wrong with saying you cant really focus when she is hovering...

i got an apostaphone...the first one here i think...comes in handy for private conversation with normal people...ten bucks at walmart and cheap airtime to boot...

man do i feel your pain...but i think it is a great plan to keep her sexually hellbent on making at least one part of your life great..........oomps

thecrushed

oompa i dont let her sit behind me while im on the computer. when tell her it makes me kind of nervous she just asks if im trying to hide something from her. instead of fighting with her i just shut the computer down and make her leave the room with me. hell since it started happenning i havent been in my studio in weeks. instead ive been doing projects around the house and working long hours. im going to return to my studio soon but i wanna get her chilled out and impressed with my confidence, ambition, and new get r done manly manness. despite the lack of going to meetings im becoming a super attentive hubby. i fix her breakfast on the weakends, landscaping the yards, cleaning the gutters, building a shed, adding new electrical outlets and the list goes on.

blindnomore

You sound like a hard working husband.

thecrushed

Well its about 12:37 am and of course I'm online watching apostate youtube vids and all of a sudden I hear my wife scream at the top of her lungs. I go to check on her and she is sound asleep. I think she is having night terrors. She has finally accepted if not subconciencly that I'm not going to another damn cult meeting and to to stop pestering me about it. She is still missing meetings but actually went out in service today with the group. I can only imagine the conversation she is having about our marriage and generally stuff that isn't anyone else's biz while out. I'm more than likely becoming the preverbial punching bag. I continue to be the loving supportive husband and I will remain silent about anything remotely religious unless directly asked. Also the elders have informed my father that I quit the meetings and he is now moving into our hall to keep better tabs on us and probably will start guilt tripping me soon after he finds out just HOW MANY MEETINGS WE MISS. For me its 100% and for her about 80%. I had to stop doing all the intense bible research because it was making her super suspicious. Now I just drink alcohol and play violent video games and she seems to be able to deal with that better. GO FIGURE! My job is going well and my relationship with my boss is awesome! I'm becoming independant and confident in my skills for the first time in my life.

thecrushed

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