It's like this with my hubby, sometimes I feel as if I am getting somewhere then it all goes back several steps and I feel as if I am back where I started. I just feel happy that he acknowledges my right to believe what I want even though it disturbs him. Try to take it slowly with her and don't push her. She will have to find her own way and as with everyone that does find out the real truth about the WTS, not everyone goes in the same direction. Be patient (not easy I know!!)
spilled the beans
by thecrushed 147 Replies latest members private
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thecrushed
well today my wife had another meltdown. She begged me not to leave me and Jehovah. I started to cry with her because I knew that she had made her choice and it was either I stay with the BORG or she would die inside. She started to make excuses for me and say that it was just my bipolar talking. She began to mother me and say it was going to be ok and that things will get better. Wifey and MIL just left for meeting and I really hope she doesn't tell brother conditional loving Elder to talk to me. So as of now I've let her believe that I'm just mentally disturbed right now. She needs to believe that I think or otherwise she will lose it at the meeting and then the floodgates of DFing, Divorce, losing my family will ensue. I love this women so very much and yet this WT BS is coming in between the love of my life. If this is what Jehovah wants then he is one Sadistic bastard! Fortunately I know this is just the delusional rules of MEN.
I can't see this religion lasting another 100 years with this much bloodguilt and pain from countless families torn apart by it. Can you? -
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"Well, you're further ahead than most who've just learned the truth about the "truth". At least your wife isn't running to the elders to turn you in for apostasy. ..." Jamie Bowers, page #1
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
I can't see this religion lasting another 100 years with this much bloodguilt and pain from countless families torn apart by it. Can you?
For the obedient, they promise eternal youth and unlimited exotic pets. For the "disobedient" (which includes billions who have never heard of Watchtower"), they promise that rocks will fall from the sky smashing their skulls open. This has been the basic premise that has kept Watchtower Corporation alive for a very long time. Most aren't attentive to the teaches, changes, illogic, they just see the stick and the carrot and run the JW rat race.
I wish I could come up with some good advice for you. I think the major difference for me is that I don't have anyone "in" that can bring me to tears. Well, the closest I come to tears is when I think of the JWs I've known that have committed suicide and all the innocent men, women, and children that Watchtower says will be slaughtered... very soon now.
Would your wife be interested in non-JW marriage counselling?
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thecrushed
Actually I told her I've been seeing a therapist and her reaction was very negative. She thinks the Elders can fix everything. She isn't opposed to psychiatrists because they just prescribe meds for my bipolar but WT have always warned agaisnt psychologists because they are wise to the CULT. She flatly told me she refuses to come with me to a session.
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Isn't amazing when we wake up how it becomes so obvious all the mental manipulation the WTBTS does to insulate itself from being discovered for the fraud that it is. Everything that might help a person discover the truth about "The Truth" is demonized as being "part of Satan's system of things" so we're afraid to touch it or go near it; when in reality, the WT is the one lying and hiding their deceit and corruption and just don't want to be found out!
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thecrushed
well this has been the worst week of our marriage on reocord. the mother in law constantly talks about service the watchtower and everything else wt related. my wife has crying spells everyday and trys her best to hide it from her mother while she is here. today she locked herself in the bathroom so she could cry and throw up. i got in and she told me we have to get help and that satan has overreached me. she says she will put a headcovering on so she can read the bible to me if she has to. she wants me to drop my therapist and just study with the elders instead. ive been marked for reindoctrination which is impossible after what i know of reality. right this very minute her and her mother are studying the watchtower for tommorow in our bedroom without me. she looks at me like im dying of a terminal disease. i think that im losing her and she thinks she is losing me and its killing us both. thank you wt your destroying my life!
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Billy the Ex-Bethelite
It almost sounds to me like your wife is more concerned about convincing herself that it's "the truth." If she really wants to read just the Bible, let her at it.
When is MIL leaving? I think her presence is very upsetting to your wife, trying to keep up appearances.