Look, thecrushed...
First of all, DON'T PANIC. It really ISN'T the "End Of The World". It just looks like it, because you, too, are still struggling with some of those apocalyptic cult-programmed responses.
Here are some suggestions - again...
First, PLAY SPY.
That means you will need to assume a FALSE FACE. PLAY the Watchtower game, but play it AGAINST THEM.
Play coy with the elders, as suggested above.
If you must do so to maintain peace and a decent standing in your own house, backtrack with your wife. Tell her that you've "seen the error of your ways" - but get those books anyway...
You haven't really committed any error, and you know that, but you want to get HER to lower HER defenses, right? You can't do that if SHE thinks that SHE'S the "morally superior" one in the situation.
The fact that SHE'S considering putting on a "head covering" and reading to YOU, means that she's (a) panicking because you're trying to rush her into something that she's never considered before and (b) she now thinks that she is in a position to take over YOUR "position of headship" as dictated by the Watchtower Corporation, because now SHE (c) has to "save" you....
Bleah. Not a fun situation.
But you can HAVE some fun with this, as you maneuver conditions to help YOU get HER out.
(I mention FUN, because that was the FIRST thing that my therapist picked up on, after I exited the cult. In one of our first sessions, she asked me, "But where's your sense of humor?" I realised that I HAD NO SENSE OF HUMOR - it had been HAMMERED OUT OF ME by that damned cult and its DOOMSDAY BULLSH*T.)
So, I would say that DEVELOPING A SENSE OF HUMOR about the situation will help immensely.
I know - it seems like the end of your marriage; it seems like "the end of the world".
But it's NOT.
So clear your head, do some deep-breathing exercises - and I'd suggest doing some light reading on some of those subjects that have been forbidden to you up until now - scholarly archaeology, paleo-archaeology, paleontology, geology, astronomy, and so on...
Leave THOSE books lying around - perhaps your wife will read THEM.
You'll have to go at this SIDEWAYS - you'll have to SNEAK UP on your wife's brain; you CANNOT do a "full frontal assault".
That would be disastrous.
Just relax, lean back, develop a sense of humor - and start playing MENTAL CHESS GAMES.
Seriously, you have what it takes to outmaneuver the Watchtower Corporation, and gain your wife's freedom. You'll just have to be patient and map out strategies for the LONG RUN, as several other people on this thread have pointed out.
Best results to you!! If you're canny and clever, subtle and sly, I'm sure you will succeed!!
Zid - the board's She-Devil
Hang in there, the crushed... We're here for you, as much as we can be...