Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you (page 15)

wasblind

Chemical,

no parent enjoy disiplining their child whether it's a spankin' or takin' somethin' away

a punishment is a punishment. it is not enjoyable.

If your mom enjoyed it, she was crazy

CE dear, I'm a mother who dearly loves her kids. Yes, I used to spank maybe one or two of them but I'm human and I learned other techniques to discipline my children. My spanking does not negate my proficieny in being a mother. I have an 18 year old son who has finished high school with a 3.4 gpa who will start college in the fall. I have a 14 year old daughter who is a brilliant writer, finished her freshmen year in high school with a 3.75 gpa and she says she wasn't even trying. I have an 11 year old son who is a gentle giant among his friends, and is loved by all his teachers and his classmates' parents, he brought home a stack of awards most of which were for good citizenship. I have an 8 year old son who is autistic, he just finished the third grade with flying colors and is looking forward to starting fourth grade.

Tell me CE, how many kids have you raised?

wasblind

Not a damn one, i don't know where she gettin' this fictitious mess from that we enjoy punishin' our kids

ShirleyW

Sounds like you two are forgetting that Chemical is still a yung un', they're observations are usually correct, it's us old folks that just don't seem to get .

mrsjones5

*facepalm!* oh I totally forgot that Shirley. Yeah, an 18 year old living at home with her parents knows vastly more about parenting than a 47 year old woman who's been married close to 20 years and has four kids ranging in age from 18 to 8. How in the hell could I not see that?

Chemical Emotions

Yeah, I've heard that one before, Mrs Jones. But I don't have to be a parent to know right from wrong. I bet you're a great mom, but that doesn't make spanking right. I'm sure your kids are happy and healthy, but that doesn't make spanking right.

I never hit animals after age 12ish, or children. I've been bitten, scratched, had my hair pulled (by animals and children) and been threatened. But hitting was never neccesary to stop those issues. I'll grant that I don't have much experience, but I don't need experience to know that abuse is wrong. Nothing anyone says can make me think, "hey wait a minute, being smacked by my parents didn't really traumatize me at all! And once I'm a parent I won't mind doing it either. I mean, I'm psychic and can tell if the occasional hit will emotionally effect my children or not, just like my mother was. All that emotional damage was just me being dramatic! After all, hitting is only abuse if you do it to someone who can sue you."

EDIT: I don't see how you agreed with me, sorry. I know you said you didn't regret spanking your kids, so i assumed that you felt it was right in some circumstances. If I misunderstood you, I'm sorry. I sometimes do that when i read posts too fast.

jam

OK folks, would you advise someone to read the Bible

if they have any questions on disciplining children or

slaves if you have any?

mrsjones5

CE, apparently you did not comprehend what I just said. I was agreeing with you.

Chemical Emotions

Thanks for being so rude to me, you guys. I guess I just don't know anything.

I guess my experience of being hit means nothing. I guess my trivial little feelings on the subject, which I tried to share, which was really hard to share, mean nothing. I suppose my stupid opinions don't mean shit. I guess I'll just go fuck off.

No one asked what I meant. I never said you enjoyed punishing kids just then. Don't put words in my mouth. But you were happy about it in that it did not make you feel bad. You don't regret it. You don't wish you hadn't done it. You think you did the right thing.

mrsjones5

No one is being rude to you CE. Just pointing out your lack of experience in child rearing. Being a mother/parent is vastly different from being a child. I've been on both sides, I was a child once. Being a mother is the hardest thing I've ever done. The responsilbility is enormous. I'm not perfect, no one on this earth is, and I've made mistakes and had missteps but at the core of it all I love my kids and would die for them.

Spare the Rod and spoil the child, How did that work for you

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