Dating

by d 82 Replies latest social relationships

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    D, make friends with the lady. Sincerely find out about her.

    It is true that confidence has an affect on people. Women like confident men. Men like confident women. People like confident people.

    What do you do in your life that you are proud of? Where do your interests and talents lie? I knew a guy who wooed a woman he met in a camera/photography club. He was asking everyone if they knew where he could buy film for a certain odd camera. He was an American in England. She was British. She told him she knew where he could find the film. He used this as a stepping off point to get to know her better, doing something they both found interesting: photography. As they worked together on the club assignments, he got to know her better and a romance bloomed. They dated, fell in love and stayed married until his death a few years back. He was over ten years older than her.

    The best relationships I have had stemmed from becoming friends with guys I met while pursuing a common interest. With both, there was obvious mutual chemistry from the first meeting. We genuinely liked each other. But with both we were friends for a while before any romance started. It was so much fun getting to know them and watching the relationships unfold.

    I bet if you meet someone who shares an interest that you do, you will feel more confident.

    Some important things to keep in mind. Good grooming and hygiene, not forgetting your finger and toenails and teeth is paramount. Having clothing that is in good shape that fits you well is also important. When you care about yourself, it will help you have more confidence and it will show. Do you like wearing things like hats, jewelry, cool belts and shoes or boots? Do you have a handle on your own style personality?

    Do you do things like make your own bbq sauce or play an instrument? Are you good at something like bowling or pool? Sculpture? Cooking? Be an interesting person. Like Napoleon Dynamite says, chicks like guys with skills.

  • d
    d

    I am good with literature and history and this girl is an English major so that is a plus. I know a lot about many subjects and I am always eager to learn more about various subjects.

  • sarahsmile
    sarahsmile

    Ok, the thing about girls is asking one out lets her know that YOU want to get to know her. The most pretty girls cry at night because they can not get a date. So tell me do you want to please tge girls or do you want to make tgem cry?

    Girls are just as nervous as you are but every one becomes netvous around people they do not know.

    A first date is to see if your both interested enough to go on a second. If someone turns you down,go to the next one. Be polite tell her you will call her.

  • d
    d

    I would ask her out it is just I feel that she many look at me and not even give me the time of day. I have been rejected so many times I just do not even bother asking anybody out.

  • Band on the Run
    Band on the Run

    D,

    She might make some overture and you might reject her. You aren't asking her to marry you. Besides, do you have any idea how many Book Clubs there are? All right, I am female so I don't know the pressure on men. I would not want the pressure. Women face the pressure of hanging back. I wish for your sake that you would summon the courage and invite her out. We did not have normal teen years.

  • FlyingHighNow
    FlyingHighNow

    Find a writing group or reading group and ask her if she'd like to joint it together, as friends. See what her reaction is.

  • d
    d

    You are right Band on the Run.But when I see her I get weak in he knees.I have talked to her on two occasions and I do not get it. I am near her I get all bent out of shape.She is so cute and I just do it but I will have summon the courage.

  • d
    d

    More views and advice.

  • Nice_Dream
    Nice_Dream

    It must be nerve wracking to ask someone out, but practice will make it easier. I loved this quote: "Sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it." It's from the movie "We Bought a Zoo."

    At college, a guy from high school asked me if I wanted to go study in the library with him. And after he asked me out for dinner. If I wasn't totally brainwashed at the time, I would have gladly accepted. He was awkward and adorable.

    Maybe you can ask the girl if she wants to go for coffee sometime, or study in the library? Is it possible for you to take a class with her? That would be a good way to get to know her better.

  • d
    d

    Unfortunately I do not have any classes with her.But I can talk to some classmates who know her. I have talked to her two time last semster.But now I can not go near her without shaking.When I see her face I just lose myself my Jehovah witness cult programming prevents me from talking to her.I just felt angry at myelf for not talking to her she is really nice but I just unfit to ask her out.Please my fellow ex jw's I am torn here I really like her but yet I felt nervous at asking her out.

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