This isn't about people. It's about ideologies and what they enable, encourage and teach. The fruit of ideologies is seen in the behaviour of its adherents. We don't reject Nazism because every German member of the Nazi party threw people in ovens or would condone excess but because it enabled some to do it while robbing the main subscribers of the ideology the tools, means and mental impetus to disagree.
In Islam we find 50% of the society (women) socially disempowered , we find life devalued (honour killing, religious war, death for apostasy etc.) , we see barbaric punishment focused on pain and submission ( chopping of hands, stoning, beheading) and we find a core cultural and religious text written to define a tribe during a time of iron age warfare that is immune to change or internal criticism. We don't need to destroy Muslims we need to destroy Islam - why? - because it is unable to progress (its central myth is that it is the direct word of god) or accommodate any other ideology (destruction of 'others' by violence, death and conquest is condoned). This is not JWs destroying families (internally self destructive beliefs) this is a religion focused on destroying everyone else.
We don't need to take Islam seriously and use all the tools of western secular civilisation against it to pick on the lovely Muslim family next door we need to do it to protect everything that our society has learnt from our own bloody experience of medieval Christianity. Accommodating Islam is to let the cuckoo lay eggs in the nest.