Wife's weight problem

by dangel 199 Replies latest social relationships

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  Buster

  
  I told my wife, before we got married, that one of the reasons I wanted to marry her was her attractiveness. I told her that if she got fat, I would be gone. I have no intentions of introducing a fat wife to my friends and business people. Now keep in mind, I'm not talking heroin-chic runway-model thin here. But I expect her to take care of herself, and her looks.

  So one day, a bit over a year after our son was born, I decided that I was dissatisfied with the pace at which she was loing the weight. She had asked me to bring her the cookies from the kitchen. I walked into the living room, sat beside her, she had a quizical look on her face and asked about the cookies. Well I asked, "Remember what I said before we got married?" She knew exactly what I was talking about.

  Long story short: She got to the gym.

  If your wife is as fat as it sounds, then she knows it. Its just up to you whether or not you'll tolerate it.
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  jeanniebeanz

  I told my wife, before we got married, that one of the reasons I wanted to marry her was her attractiveness.

  Personally, even though you are an honest person, I think you are a jerk. I would never have had any interest in such a shallow individual...

  J
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  Buster

  I think you are a jerk

  Now that hurts. But not as much as if I had to go home and look at a beast every day.

  It kills me how a man is expected to watch his once-attractive mate eat her way into blimpdom, and feel guilty about being dissatisfied.
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  trevor

  If your wife is as fat as it sounds, then she knows it. Its just up to you whether or not you'll tolerate it.

  Now I know why you are called Buster. You are the male version of a female Ball Breaker.

  Us slim people must stick together or we will be drowned under a sea of fat!
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  jeanniebeanz

  To tell you the truth, when I read your post I was thinking of the movie "Shallow Hal" lol

  I didn't mean to hurt your feelings, but as you had been quite brutal in your opinions I didn't think you'd mind the same from someone else.

  Jean
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  Buster

  I suppose I could have used one of those fancy smanchy emoticons. I'm not really that easily offended.

  I thought "Shallow Hal" was quite good.
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  whyamihere

  I am just glad I have my husband....If I had a husband like Buster I would laugh grab my own cookies and show him where the door is.

  My husband married me for me. I gained some weight after having 2 babies...one born Feb of 02 and one Dec 03...very close together. Now I am back to my old self but he never said anything to me about my weight. He said I was beautiful and he was lucky to have me as a wife and mother to his children.

  I talked to him just 5 minutes ago about what some people were saying here. He said he thinks some of you are Pathetic Sad Ignorant Shallow and some just Stupid Jerks for treating their wives the way they do.

  Oh just so you know My Husband is a complete hottie and lifts weights! Just a little FYI and that's me in my Avatar! We have kids and try our best to keep healthy. If I gain 100 pounds I know in my heart he will still love and and want me. He tells me that all the time. I hope and pray that the ones with bigger wives and complain about it...may you gain a ton. I wonder if your wives would treat or say what you do!

  Brooke
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  Emma

  Brooke, I like you and your husband!
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  itsallgoodnow

  I told her that if she got fat, I would be gone. I have no intentions of introducing a fat wife to my friends and business people.

  Wow that statement proves my case so perfectly. He cares more about appearances than about people. I'm guessing he doesn't have any fat friends either.

  I'm sure not everyone is this way and most people really care about their mate's health along with wanting them to stay reasonably attractive. I can understand having health concerns about an overweight wife or husband, that's one thing. Ask yourself if they were doing something else that jeopardized their health, like drinking too much, or smoking, or whatever, if that would drive you as crazy as if they were getting fat. Your answer would really tell you if you really gave a fat damn about your mate at all.

  The types of people that feel such a strong hatred for fat people are basically hateful people looking for some reason to hate people anyway. After all, it's not politically correct to hate a person over their skin color anymore, is it? Or maybe they just need somebody to look down upon, make themselves feel a little bit better. I feel kind of sorry for these people, especially if the skinny girl they end up with makes them miserable in so many other ways. They act like fat people have committed a crime against humanity or something.

  Usually with these types, they can look the other way about drunk driving and other things people to themselves that actually do hurt other people.
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  Elsewhere

  
  

  I told my wife, before we got married, that one of the reasons I wanted to marry her was her attractiveness.

  Personally, even though you are an honest person, I think you are a jerk. I would never have had any interest in such a shallow individual...

  Yes, it is a mean way to treat someone, but the bottom line is this: Women are lined up to date guys like that. Go figure.

  -Else, of the Nice Guy Who is Still Single Class