I have been offline for a few days but I just wanted to add this.
The topic of "not wanting a nice guy" was brought up.
That is so true for most girls. My own sister recently had a baby with a guy who treats her awful. He even has a first degree sex offence record with a minor. She had a "nice guy" trying to get her attention the entire time. She even called him when the other treated her badly, he was always there for her but she chose the jerk. She now spends most of her evenings alone, untill he feels like strolling in at odd hours of the morning.
I totally wanted a nice guy because I watched my mother enter into an abusive relationship with a man. I swore to myself that I would never be in a relationship like that. I met my husband at a party. He was cute but I guess others didnt feel that he was the most "popular" guy around. One thing I noticed was, he was the only guy there that wasnt drinking. I do drink occasionally, so it wasnt just that but I was very drawn to him. He just seemed more honest, and not afraid to be different. Most of the other girls were falling all over the partying guys who had the nicest cars etc. Some of the girls even laughed at me, making comments like why would I choose him etc. I couldnt believe it because neither they or I were drop dead gorgeous.
Anyway, we have been married for 13 years. He is the greatest person, husband, friend and father to our children. I can honestly say that I wouldnt care if he gained weight or went totally bald, I would still love him.
I run into some of those girls now, from time to time and its ironic, most of them are either alone raising their children fighting for child support or unhappily married. One girl who actually dated my husband and dumped him for a "cool" guy, ended up with someone who is now in prison for sexually assulting her and her cousin at the same time. I dont think she will be choosing that kind of man again, regardless of how "popular" he is.
I guess at first, what attracts you to someone might be their outer appearance but after you become attracted to them as a person, it goes beyond that. That could be why we see couples that seem mismatched, ones very attractive and the other isnt. Some people age well and others dont but their partner doesnt notice because they already love them as a person. Ya' know, like loving your children, unconditionally.
Posts by Solace
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69Does Looks Really Matter?
by butalbee indoes looks really matter in love?
would you go out with someone who was not physically attractive if he/she had a big heart on the inside, a great personality, lot's of things in common with, etc...i guess i'm asking what's more important to you the person on the exterior or who he/she really is underneath?.
lara
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Man eats woman
by ISP inearly closing?.
suspected cannibal arrested for roasting and eating 40-yr-old woman .
wednesday, 20th february, 2002 .
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Gross, disgusting and repulsive.
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Does Looks Really Matter?
by butalbee indoes looks really matter in love?
would you go out with someone who was not physically attractive if he/she had a big heart on the inside, a great personality, lot's of things in common with, etc...i guess i'm asking what's more important to you the person on the exterior or who he/she really is underneath?.
lara
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I do not think looks are important. What someone might find attractive, someone else might not. I do think personal hygiene is very important. Regardless of what someone looks like, I think everyone should take care of themselves. I wouldnt want to be around someone who hasent showered in days, but then again, that sort of thing might not bother someone else.
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Great Joke to play on a DUB
by Beans inthis is something that we do at hockey tournaments as a joke but i was thinking how much fun it would be to play on a jw.what we do is in a restauraunt when were all sitting down someone tells the waitress that it is someones birthday when there gone to the can or sitting at another table.when dinner is done and time for desert a stream of waitresses and waiters come and sing to the surprised person and it`s not even there birthday but play along anyways.. so as you know how much the jw`s like to go out to dinner after the assemblies and halloween,scope out these places plant the info on the waitress and sit back and watch you`ll be on the floor laughing your ass off!!
!i think the assembly location would be best with a full house of dub`s.
beans
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Hilariouse!
That reminds me of my J.W. grandparents 50th wedding anniversary.
When the champagne was served, one of the non-J.W. guests stood up to make a toast. When it was time to clink glasses, everyone looked at eachother like a bunch of idiots. So funny!
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Open letter to Shari / Lilacs
by Okaythen ini thought long and hard before i wrote this .
but there are some things that have been bothering me, so i'm going to them off my chest.
i'm sure this will p*ss you off,so be it.. i know it's hard being a single parent, and working all the time.
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Okaythen:
I see nothing wrong with someone using the computer while they are at home. Being a single mother is very hard work, not to mention stressfull, if chatting with people on the internet is a hobby Shari has, then so what. It may even be good to relieve some of the stress she may be experiencing.
My mother raised me and my sister alone, thanks to the W.T.S teaching at the time of scriptural freedom, she was not able to remarry when we were young. She was so depressed, There were times when she was physically abusive, verbally abusive, or pased out from (God knows what drug). When we were babies, if it wasnt for my grandmother, we wouldnt have even been fed. I dont hate my mother but I would never do that to my children. I actually use it as an example of what I would not want to become.
If a child is in an abusive situation, the adult seeing this, should call Child Protective Services.
If your main concern is the children and you honestly thought they were being abused, as responsible as you seem to think you are, Im sure you would have called right away.
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Blood Issue and Hypocrisy
by teenyuck ini have told a couple of people on the board, thru e-mail, who i am, who my mother and family are.
i hope what i am about to post will not get my mother in trouble.
my mother met a man about 24 years ago.
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I wouldnt be too hard on her mother.
Maybe she didnt feel comfortable taking a stance on the blood issue because deep down she may be having doubts herself.
I think its one thing to take your own life because of a personal belief but its another thing to make that kind of decision regarding another persons life. Not everyone is capable of doing that.
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Micheal the ArcAngel/Jesus the man
by plmkrzy ini understand that a lot believe that micheal and jesus are one in the same some believe that jehovah and jesus are one in the same some believe that one is the son of god yadda yadda yadda.. would some of you please address or post your reasons for believing that micheal the arc angel was not gods first creation and why he couldn't be the one sent to us to be born as a man and become our savyor?
why would he not have another name fitting his role as a man on earth?
he obviously wouldn't be living on earth as a child growing up as an angel.
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plmkrzy:
Good point... I suppose that is the case with any human being living on this planet, regardless of what religion they are. I guess I am worried about my family being misinformed and worshipping the wrong God. I sometimes wonder if this will have some impact on how they are viewed by God. Although, it doesnt make sense that God would judge people, just because they didnt know the truth. -
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Gutted/excited/gutted/excited/gutted/ex...
by sleepy inhow did you feel when you first learn the real truth about jehovahs witnesses.. was it a relief did you feel excited about all the things you were going to do or try?.
or did you feel absolutely gutted , years down the drain, no paradise you won't see your dead parents again?.
did you initial feelings last or have they changed?.
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I was angry at first.
For me and my family having been tricked for all those years.
Later, I felt piece of mind, just to have proof in writing.
It all seemed to make sense after that. All the doubts that I had about the society were made valid, well to myself anyway.
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Not if, but when...
by teejay ini was raised in the truth.. it was about six weeks past my fifth birthday when my mother was contacted by "jehovah's people" and a few months short of my sixth when she got baptized a half year later.
that was the summer of 1962.. because of my experience with the truth from such an innocent age when thought patterns were first being formed, one of the tricks that was played on me one of the lies that was passed along is that some of those of my generation happened to be among the most fortunate of all of mankind since some of us would never die.
if i did my best; if i tried hard enough and did everything that was within my power to do; if i found favor with the most high god, i might well be one of those who'd never taste death at all but live right through this world's end into a global paradise.
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I used to be afraid of death when I was a J.W.
I used to get physically sick when people I loved passed away. Now that I have a more accurate understanding of the bible, I feel totally different. My J.W. family may never know the feeling of peace you have, just knowing that God isnt the bigoted, insensitive being that the W.T.S portrays him to be. The W.T.S does this in order to control people, to expand the size of their organization.
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Blood Issue and Hypocrisy
by teenyuck ini have told a couple of people on the board, thru e-mail, who i am, who my mother and family are.
i hope what i am about to post will not get my mother in trouble.
my mother met a man about 24 years ago.
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Hello!
Im here.
I guess you are not suprised, as I hit every discussion on this topic. I think the witnesses believe that if you are not a witness, you are unaware of its knowledge, as a result, you will be excused by Jehovah if you accept blood, since you didnt know it was wrong.
My family tells me constantly, that I know better, so I am going to be bloodguilty for not getting my family in the "truth" and I am responsible for them being killed in armageddon.
Oh well, I guess its to bad Im just worldly, instead of ignorant and worldly.
The whole thing is totally bizarre, scare the hell out of people, mind control crapp.