will_the_apostate

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  J-Dub Gossip: How Do/Did You Handle It?

  by DarioKehl in

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  perhaps the biggest fear i have of leaving is the ensuing gossip that will follow.

  i know it's stupid to worry about what will be said about me once i'm "out," but it kills me inside.

  of course, that doesn't mean that i don't already deal with my fair share of gossip as it is while still "in.

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  will_the_apostate

  i ignore it or laugh at it. these people who gossip lead such pathetic boring lives that the only thing they can do is try to butt into yours.

  @ itsbeenalongtime the same thing happened to me, my wife and I were married in the first part of August and our daughter was due June 2nd and I had "concerned relatives asking if she was conceived in wedlock or not because otherwise they wouldn't attend the baby shower. I just told them to count back 9 months from June 2nd and tell me what date they got.
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  my story....

  by losecontrol in

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  2. scandals

  well i am new to this, and i must admit that at first i was very opposed to this site.

  i grew up being a witness and was warned about looking into apostate things, which is exactly what this site would be that they are referring to.

  i always tried to live my life the best that i could under the societys control, and never really got to have any life experiance at all.

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  will_the_apostate

  Welcome losecontrol. it sounds like you have your priorities straight, your family should be more important than your religion. JW's have no problem breaking up families and then they will still treat you like an outsider. If you haven't already read "crisis of conscience" or "in search of christian freedom" both by ray franz. I hope everything works out for you and your wife. best of luck

  wta
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  Finally out!

  by fade_away in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i've been loggin in to this site for about 3 or 4 months on an almost daily basis.

  i decided to finally make an account cause i just have to vent and connect with those who have been in my shoes.

  "worldly" people don't understand completely when i talk to them about the hardship of being born into a religion/cult, growing up with people making decisions for me, and having them choose my future, goals, and dreams; all the while sacrificing normal childhood joys and replacing them with study, service hours, and 5 minute talks.

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  will_the_apostate

  welcome fade_away, your very fortunate that your wife was of like mind too. i'm happy for both of you
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  Has anyone else tried the crazy approach to fading

  by will_the_apostate in

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  2. friends

  during my fade i started acting more and more bizarre (not brushing my hair, clothes that did not match, sleeping during meetings, non-sequitur answers) and i found that it really helped because most of the rank and file just thought i was bat sh*t crazy, and the elders were kind of happy not to have to deal with me.

  so has anyone done something similar?.

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  will_the_apostate

  @zoinks well it explains my behavior then. what you see now is just my normal wierdness.
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  whats everybody doing this weekend?

  by deservingone26 in

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  whats everybody doing this weekend?

  i have no plans tryin to figure out what im gonna do tired of doing what i usually do which is go out and drink .

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  @sab you should get him a tag junior, my kids love reading their books with it and you can program it to say their name to them.
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  Has anyone else tried the crazy approach to fading

  by will_the_apostate in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  during my fade i started acting more and more bizarre (not brushing my hair, clothes that did not match, sleeping during meetings, non-sequitur answers) and i found that it really helped because most of the rank and file just thought i was bat sh*t crazy, and the elders were kind of happy not to have to deal with me.

  so has anyone done something similar?.

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  will_the_apostate

  During my fade I started acting more and more bizarre (not brushing my hair, clothes that did not match, sleeping during meetings, non-sequitur answers) and I found that it really helped because most of the rank and file just thought I was bat sh*t crazy, and the elders were kind of happy not to have to deal with me. So has anyone done something similar?
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  DF Question

  by TheLoveDoctor in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  if 1 elder definetly knows how i feel of governing body and some of thier doctrine, he knows as i admitted viewing and researching apostate liturate can they still disfellowship me if i refuse to meet?

  right now the 1 brother would talk to the body they would need 2 witneses or one more brother to determine if thier should be a jc yet i know and they know it would be obviouse for the need for one, could the just form one and if i refuse to meet could they df me anyway?.

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  will_the_apostate

  If they try to form a JC just tell them you would like to have an attorney present. if they come to your house tell them they are not welcome then go to the police station and get a restraining order. Send them a certified letter stating that any actions taken against you or statements made or inferred about you will be viewed as harassment. you can search some of the posts here I believe someone has a really good form letter to give the elders. if you do this you should at least buy some time or scare them off completely.
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  whats everybody doing this weekend?

  by deservingone26 in

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  whats everybody doing this weekend?

  i have no plans tryin to figure out what im gonna do tired of doing what i usually do which is go out and drink .

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  setting up my workbench in the basement, shoveling the snowbanks down so they will melt hopefully, and take the two oldest kids to a movie
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  Three years ago TODAY !

  by wobble in

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  it's my anniversary !!!.

  i just realised that three years ago, on 25th march 2008, i walked out of the kingdom hall and thought, "i can never go back".

  it was a strange and worrying feeling that night, i knew (or thought) i was heading for being df'd, i had been in for 58 years, all my extended family were in, all my life-long friends were in, all my social circle were in, and as i walked away , i knew jw life was at an end, and i would have to start a new life from scratch... it is the most wonderful decision i have ever made in my life, second only to when i impulsively asked my girlfriend of a few months to marry me, she did, the fool, and we are still together after 40 years.. i have enjoyed immensely the feeling of relief, freedom and excitement that has been with me since i left, my journey since leaving has been a fascinating one of exploring ideas and visiting different religion's services, learning about evolution, philosophy, critical thinking, etc.etc.. three years well spent, and the rest of my life in freedom !!

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  will_the_apostate

  happy anniversary! thats three years not living for a cult
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  craziest reason elders wanted to have a commitee meeting with you

  by glentrevette in

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  2. experiences

  i had a sister who was a tenant in my house and her car was leaking oil all over my newly paved driveway before she moved in i had a condition on the lease that said if her car leaked oil she couldnt park there and i told here after she moved in that she was being deceptive to me when she said her car didnt leak oil she was good friends with a lot of powerful elders in the hall and would you believe they asked to meet with me 3 elders in the back room of the library because they said i had called this sister a liar i got out of it only after i produced a copy of the lease and pictures of the oil mess if i hadnt of had pictures maybe i would of been dfd.

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  will_the_apostate

  @Honesty you told them the GB were apostates? I love it!