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  Then & Now

  by headisspinning in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  i was born in the 70's and my jw mother spanked us a lot... actually, beat us is more accurate.

  i know of other people from the same generation (lol!

  ) and it seemed to be somewhat common during that time period within the organization.. i also remember wearing a lot of second hand clothing and having pretty dismal school lunches and we were simply not allowed to ask for anything - needs or wants.

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  What Are Their Motives?

  by headisspinning in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i have a question.

  if jws are a cult, what is the motivation of the leaders?

  what are they getting out of controlling all these people?.

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  The Loving Disfellowshipping Arrangement

  by headisspinning in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  my youngest sister is the only person in my jw family who has had any real contact with my husband and i and our baby.

  for the first year she cut us off too but then after a while she seemed to realize how horrible it was and she opened up to us.. well, she is very easily influenced by the family and so she cut us off again.

  she tried to feed me the line about it being for our own good blah, blah, blah.. here is an excerpt from how i replied:.

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  Black and White Thinking

  by headisspinning in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  black and white thinking is incredibly dangerous.

  it is actually one of the diagnostics for borderline personality disorder.

  identity issues are also an earmark... .

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  Wine Is the Answer

  by headisspinning in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i am drunk.... today was the day that i realized that i was brainwashed by a cult.. my husband knows it too.

  we don't know what to do or where to turn.. at this point, i think drinking wine is the answer.. i really respect barbara anderson and frank kavelin and 'living the dream' (whoever that is).. i am from *********.

  i spent 10 years in *****.

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  WTF???

  by headisspinning in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  http://www.seanet.com/~raines/review.html.

  the society at the time believed that some demons or fallen angels were honest and could be saved and return to god's organization.

  [6] angels and women, they believed, was channeled or "dictated" to the author by one such fallen angel who was honest and told the truth about pre-flood conditions on earth.

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  The Great Tribulation May Have Started

  by headisspinning in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  my ex husband who is a jw just sent me this:.

  "the world is on the precipice of a major multifaceted crisis.

  the great tribulation may have just started.. .

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  What Was Meant By 'Abstain From Blood'?

  by headisspinning in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i have always been very hardcore about my aversion to blood and have never even considered the possibility that this was merely a dietary restriction.

  i always bought into the analogy of a doctor telling a patient to abstain from alcohol... it wouldn't matter whether this individual drank the alcohol or took it intravenously... it would all be in direct contradiction to the doctor's orders to 'abstain' from alcohol.. or the other analogy is to an apple pie... if you weren't to eat the pie, it would not be okay to separate it out into the main parts (or 'components)... ie.

  the flour, the apples, the sugar or the cinnamon... if they were taken from that pie, you were eating the pie.. so maybe you can see where the questions popped up for me.

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  Wanted to get reinstated... Almost ready to give up

  by headisspinning in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'd like to hear from anyone who was disfellowshipped but fully intended to go back as soon as possible and how that worked out or didn't.

  i'd like to hear how soon you went back to meetings, how many letters requesting reinstatement you wrote, how you were treated, and how long it took you to get bitter and jaded.... or in the off chance you had a positive experience, what exactly happened.. really struggling here... thanks!.

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  High Profile Case: Seeking Reinstatement

  by headisspinning in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  but our situation is very difficult and quite high profile.... i was raised as a jw and my mother was very strict and abusive.

  i got baptized at age 14.. my mother actually called on my (present) husband's mom in service.

  she was on the initial call resulting in his mom coming in the truth and him being raised in it from about age 8 or 9.. despite a very abusive step-father, he followed his mom's lead and came into the truth.

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