I was shunned in the past when I was df. That was before I had my children. My family does not shun me now, instead, I am the family scapegoat. Whenever my mom is mad at someone else she calls and trys to pick a fight with me. I caught on it that a long time ago, so I do not bite anymore. My family does not shun me now because the elders said I have been gone so long it is like I never was in. My sister tried to get me df when I first started attending a church. Now she and my non jw sister in law just talk bad about me all the time.
My mom once told my oldest son that if I were ever df again, she would shun me, but not him. It made my son so angry, that yelled at his grandmother. Not something I was very happy about. I insist that my boys show her respect, even if I get none. So far she does talk to me, but I am always the last to know anything. And since they are all crazy, I prefer it that way.
If I would ever find someone who wanted to share their life with me, I think I would hold off on introducing my relatives to him, say maybe until the 25th wedding anniversary. Wouldn't want him to take one look at my wacked out jw family and run.
Pam