Posts by seawolf

my wife and i have discussed this before , and it has been an education for me getting out of the jehovah's witnesses over 4 years ago to see the difference in how witnesses and non-witnesses view this subject .

my wife before we met had some guy friends who she had non sexual friendships with and she was amazed when we first started dating when i told her how strict the witnesses were on men and women hanging out together alone just as friends , and that when i was a witness i never did that - at the risk of being falsely dragged before a committee if i was found in public alone with a witness woman !

my wife was amazed at the lack of trust that the elders had in each one of us as rank and file members !

seawolf

Not just YES but HELL YES. This was always a sore spot when I was growing up. I felt like I was segregated away from women, except ones that were my mother's friends and 10 times my age. However, I will say that now I realize some of it was I was purposely being kept away from a lot of the young ladies since 1. I wasn't spiritual enough (although I was very well-liked) and 2. I was competition for the other guys. oh well, payback's a bitch sometimes. ;-)

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Ex-Jw dating sites?

by Mizz.Eye in

i am lonely.

i am young, but i feel it would be nice to finally have a close friend and if i turn out to love and want to commit then even better.

the regular dating sites don't do it.

seawolf

It would be neat to have something like that. I am guessing that she's already had eleventy billion guys message her by now so she probably has her pick.

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Anyone ever disfellowshipped for gluttony?

by gaiagirl in

i never knew or heard of anyone, and remember many, many members of congregations who clearly ate much more than they needed to for health.

since the bible lumps gluttons with other "sinners" such as fornicatiors, why does wtbts not prosecute gluttons?

perhaps elders meetings aren't as much fun when you only get to ask questions like "what did you eat next?

seawolf

At my hall if they were to DF people for gluttony the entire hall would be a ghost town. I guess the CO could give talks to the tumbleweeds.

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did anyone on here ever have a paedophile in thier congregation?

by looloo in

if so, did it bother you that he had been reprooved and forgiven rather than reported to the police?

seawolf

There was one that I know of at mine. He adopted many boys and there was talk that stuff was going on.... I guess Karma caught up with him and he was found bound-up and shot to death in Miami, Florida. Karma's a bitch. ;-)

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NEW article on Oral Sex?!

by MominAustin in

i was watching the youtube video on the nbc piece about pedophiles and saw a comment about a new oral sex study article that was supposedly quite graphic.

i was curious if anyone had this?!

or knew what date it was...i might be able to sneak a peek the next time i visit my mother.

seawolf

God, am I glad I'm not going to the hall anymore and having to listen to these boring, mind-numbing talks on sex.

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Singledom - the peaks and troughs?

by Crumpet in

i have almost completed the first year of my adult life (since 18) as a bachelorette and was wondering what others' experience of singledom is?

what would you say are the advantages to being single (other than being able to pioneer .

what are the things you miss the most about a relationship?.

seawolf

I have no fear of loneliness just depression because of it!

I couldn't have said it better myself. I've been single my entire life and, as I get older, this is what I worry about a lot.

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What type of person are you attracted to now?

by Layla33 in

i was just thinking about this the other day, about how my ideas of a romantic partner have changed since being a jw.. growing up, i thought i would marry a very upstanding jw, we would pioneer together, do missionary work, have children, see the world.

(never had any thoughts about bethel, though.

) so what it boiled down to was a stepford husband, up tight, not the least bit sexual, closed minded bore.. so now that i have grown up, seen the world, been married (and actually picked a good man the first time, although it didn't work out), i just contrast that with what i am attracted to now.. i like them open minded, earthy, i love artistic types because i am a published writer, hair doesn't matter to me (long/short, bald, etc), challenges convention, very sexual, still like a traveling man.. i am just curious if you anyone else can compare and contrast how their ideas have changed since breaking out the group-think of the jw organization..

seawolf

yeah the gorillas really get all hot when you show them the banana.

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Are You Ever Afraid To Post Your Views On This Board?

by minimus in

jw
friends

do you ever get nervous making a post, knowing that perhaps you''re going to get "picked on" in one way or another??

?

seawolf

I'm going to be honest and say, yes I have been in the past. I can't count the number of times I've had a post all typed up and just said ah the heck with it and closed the window. That, combined with I don't think my posts are really noticed anyway, is why my post count is so low considering how long I've been here. :)