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  Hello-New Again and Pierced!

  by Pierced Angel in

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  i've posted in the past under the nic, "doubting sister", but i'm no longer doubtful.

  i'm totally convinced, the witnesses are just another religion like any other.

  actually, i consider them a cult, but i think many religions have cultish tendencies anyhow, so i'll refrain from calling them that for now.. because of this site i've been able to see things more clearly and i'm feeling better about leaving.

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  think41self

  Hi Anne,

  Welcome (back) to the board.

  I am glad you are at a place now where you are free of that residual guilt...that stuff is a bummer. And I could really relate to your enjoyment of the holidays, since we were deprived of them our whole lives, I think we try to make up for missed fun. I know I do. Keep talking to others about your pain and grieving, I think a lot of ex JW's do not give enough attention to this...in essence many of us "lost" our families when we left, just as surely as if they had died. That is A LOT of grieving to do, and it needs to be addressed. My husband wrote a really good article on this subject on his website at www.empowerthespirit.com...it is called "Who Am I?" Let me know what you think. It helped me a lot.

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  "When agnostics die, do they go to the great perhaps"?
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  Raised as JW

  by ReverendRoy in

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  as a former jehovah's witness i can both empathize and sympathize with you and the many others that have written here.

  i apologize for the long post.

  although i have posted this under a different heading, commie chris recommended a new toipic, thanks!.

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  think41self

  Hi Roy and Welcome to the board!

  I could relate to much of your story. My mother tried that guilt manipulation on me about my kids..and I admit...it worked for a while. When we first leave, we have trouble defining all the reasons we "feel" it is wrong. It takes us awhile to "know" why it was wrong. I am SO glad you have made it as far as you have, and your kids will have a chance at a "normal" life. My kids are, and they are LOVING every minute of it!

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  "When agnostics die, do they go to the great perhaps"?
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  Update on Wife, my move, etc

  by Yerusalyim in

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  thanks for your thoughts and well wishes.

  liza made it through the surgery ok. it turned into a 3 1/2 hour surgery instead of the 2 hours they predicted, oh well.

  she ended up losing one of her ovaries out of the deal.

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  Hi Yeru,

  I am SO GLAD your wife came through the surgery ok. That is too bad that you have to move right at this time, but things have a way of working out don't they? Maybe a new environment will be beneficial to her recovery.

  I hope she is able to overcome her feelings about not feeling "feminine" anymore. Personally, I thought having to suffer through periods every month didn't leave you feeling exactly feminine. After a tubal ligation years ago that went wrong, I had my uterus removed (tell your wife I am sharing this personal tidbit just for her benefit). Anyway, I have to tell you...NOT having that monthly curse anymore makes me feel WAY feminine AND sexy. Hubby says he figures I am just the perfect woman now...can have sex any time we want...no PMS...no accidental pregnancies...sigh...course he kind of loves me, know what I mean? Give her a big hug for me, ok?

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  "When agnostics die, do they go to the great perhaps"?
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  How many time did you take to be cured?

  by Nicolas in

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  i mean, when i read something of the watchtower, i still have sometime this old fear of armaggeddon.

  i don't know why i have this fear since i found a lot of proofs that they aren't the true religion.

  sometime, i would like to erase all these bad things that me and my family had in the jw and begin again but unfortunately, it's impossible.

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  Hi again Nicolas,

  If you keep reading and learning about the bible, your former belief systems, asking questions of yourself...you will come to some conclusions. I myself came to my own answers, and for me the belief in Armageddon is now as incredibly impossible to believe as it once used to be to believe in burning hell. See the correlation? It is just another guilt and fear motivation used by religion to control people. I wish you luck in your search for your own answers.

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  "When agnostics die, do they go to the great perhaps"?
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  Farkel: How is your father, how are you?

  by lauralisa in

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  dear farkel,.

  i just read through your post of a week ago "what is right?".

  i am so sorry about the agony you are experiencing regarding your father's suffering.

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  Farkel,

  My heart is with you...as is Doug's. When the time comes, if you want some moral support, you know we will be there for you.

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  "When agnostics die, do they go to the great perhaps"?
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  New member

  by scotland in

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  i've been checking out this forum for a while now, and decided it was time to become a member.

  anxious to begin adding my 2-cents worth.

  good day to all.

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  think41self

  Hey Scotland,

  Welcome to the board!

  We love fresh meat... Just kidding.

  I hope you have alot of fun here, I know I do. I also feel this is a safe place to discuss some more serious issues, so feel free to jump in whenever.

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  "When agnostics die, do they go to the great perhaps"?
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  Self-righteousness

  by Vitameatavegamin in

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  i am brand new here.

  just thought i would add my "two cents worth" as they say.

  i basically have become very hurt and feel so let down.

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  think41self

  Hi Vita and Welcome

  I LOVE your name. I am assuming you took it from that I Love Lucy episode. That one, along with the one where she set her nose (putty) on fire, were hilarious.

  I am so sorry that yet another individual has been abandoned by their supposed brothers and sisters in their time of need. It highlights to us what truly "sheep like" people they are, willing to follow blindly without stopping to think about what they are doing.

  I am glad your husband is doing better, and I hope you feel comfortable enough with us to share more of your life story. We care, and many of us can share similar experiences with you, as you've probably seen if you've read others stories in this forum. Welcome!

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  "When agnostics die, do they go to the great perhaps"?
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  Are't You Sick of This??

  by Explorer in

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  aren't you sick of being filled with so much hate ?

  i think hate is one of the greatest sins.

  satan hates jehovah, and his people.

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  think41self

  Hi Explorer,

  Welcome to the board.

  I think you are confusing bitterness with hate. When someone has been wronged, it is natural AND HEALTHY to feel bitterness...possibly even hatred, for a period of time. It is a process that all humans go through to deal with difficult situations. If you STAY in that bitter state indefinitely, then you are obviously not healing.

  You must not have read many of our posts if you think us all bitter and angry. I personally am one of the most cheerful and happy people. (I know this because others are constantly telling me so. ) That is another myth that you have been taught, that all who choose not to be JW's anymore are angry, resentful people with no joy or love in their lives. This is quite simply a lie. Stick around and KEEP reading posts by a variety of individuals and you will see that this is so.

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  "When agnostics die, do they go to the great perhaps"?
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  My Eldest

  by TR in

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  this is my eldest daughter, angie.

  she's 17, will be a senior in high school this fall, but is in college.

  she's an honor student.

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  TR

  Very pretty young woman...and smart too! Isn't it a funny thing the pride we feel for our children...for being cute, smart, funny, athletic...whatever. When the reality is, WE probably had nothing to do with ANY of it!

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  "When agnostics die, do they go to the great perhaps"?
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  Question on WT and Rape...Help Please..

  by gsark in

  1. jw
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  awake!

  awake!

  awake!

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  Larc,

  That is the funniest "freudian slip"? I have seen in a long time.

  Please don't shoot your head...it would make future conversation with you very difficult.

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  "When agnostics die, do they go to the great perhaps"?