Posts by scotsman

Personally, I found Bethel to be just as dull as I had expected. The only thing that hacked me off a bit was how flashy some parts were (the Stanely and the Bossart) at a time when my congregation was mortgaged to the hilt.

But it really is dullsville.

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Answering the WTS: Why are So Many Angry at the Watchtower?

by metatron in

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friends

as in a recent issue, the watchtower loves to portray its critics as "apostates" and further label them as bad people who simply.

want to draw away faithful witnesses because of their own irrational hatred of the "truth".. .

but just how true is this proposition?.

scotsman

You are so right, but illustrations are such a Witnessy thing to me it gives me the shivvers! Feel like I'm at the public talk

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My Husband Just Thinks I am Being Vindictive

by Mystery in

situation:.

my mom and sister came down in november "during thanksgiving" break.

my mom has been a jw since i was 1 year old.

scotsman

Leave it alone. Witness family are like an old scabby wound that it is irresistable to pick at but it just prolongs the wound. Your mother and sister have made their fcuked up decision and you wont change their minds bringing this up.

Move on and be fabulous.

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Raising children in the borg

by Maverick in

i have been visiting this site for about a year now.

i was not raised a jw.

i got conned in as an adult but my now ex-wife was raised in the collective.

scotsman

meetings, ministry, study etc don't make a bad childhood, abuse and neglect do.

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Raising children in the borg

by Maverick in

i have been visiting this site for about a year now.

i was not raised a jw.

i got conned in as an adult but my now ex-wife was raised in the collective.

scotsman

Hhhmmm... reading this board has always made me feel a little guilty that I had such a lovely childhood. Yes. it was in the Borg. I was deeply loved by my parents, we had fun. Yes, I didn't celebrate birthdays ,christmas etc but that never ever bothered me, maybe a born non-conformist. It may sound bizarre, but our family studies were inevitably hilarious.

Leaving was deeply unpleasant, yes, but that hasn't altered the fact that my childhood was secure and produced a secure and confident adult.

My experience may be exceptional, I have friends whose parents were a nightmare, but they'd have been a nightmare JW or not.

My tuppence.

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Further Education

by scotsman in

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friends

i had lunch with a jw friend who's just finished a law degree.

she was saying that at the last circuit assembly the bethel speaker, (philip longstaffe) said that the society had not changed its stance on further education, and that college for vocational skills was all that they thought was ok. my friend's a bit of a free thinker (i'd half hoped that this lunch date was to tell me she had doubts, but no) so she doesn't give fig what they think.

i was actually appointed as an elder the month before i started attending uni and the co had told the other elders it was no reason to prevent my appointment.. anyone else heard this at their assemblies?

scotsman

I had lunch with a JW friend who's just finished a Law Degree. She was saying that at the last Circuit Assembly the Bethel Speaker, (Philip Longstaffe) said that the Society had not changed its stance on further education, and that college for vocational skills was all that they thought was ok. My friend's a bit of a free thinker (I'd half hoped that this lunch date was to tell me she had doubts, but no) so she doesn't give fig what they think. I was actually appointed as an elder the month before I started attending Uni and the CO had told the other elders it was no reason to prevent my appointment.

Anyone else heard this at their assemblies? Or is it just be a pet peeve of Mr Longstaffe.

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Everybody, I need your help re Daughter

by xjw_b12 in

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friends

as some of you know, when cj and i were married, i adopted her daughter, and raised her as my own.

i love her so much, i never referred to her as step-daughter, and never will.

she calls me dad, even though her biological father, somehow found his way out out of the woodwork, when she turned 18.

scotsman

If your younger children are 'aware' as you put it, they surely will expect their adult sister to be like their adult parents. They cope with the knowledge that you may have sex together and will cope with knowing their sister does too. They may tease her, but that's what siblings are for. Separate rooms will make everyone embarrassed.

But, it is your house and you have the luxury of making your own rules.

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Leaving/DF'ed because of homosexuality?

by peace-arms in

how many cases are there of people leaving the jw organization or being df'ed because they decided to be gay?

is it common?

i haven't heard of many cases, but i also haven't researched a whole lot.. .

scotsman

On reflection I can think of 8 ex JW friends who are gay, and not on this board, all in th UK. Only one is dfed. I also know about 4 active, faithful, and celibate gay JWs.