My plan--fully revealed (page 6)

tall penguin

(((Dave & Amanda)))

Dammit, you guys is makin' me cry!

tall penguin

restrangled

Hey JG....read between the girl lines.

r.

The way I see it, laying things on the line is what's said and done between you two, and it's not about ultimatums or the values of those outside. Anyone else (such as counselors, well-wishers, and spectators) has got just a two-bit part. This talk therapy thread might be just what you need to find the missing pieces, each other. I look forward to a lot more glue (kind things [thoughts, words, actions], hugging, moving forward together). I wish your relationship all the best. It's nice to see love and reconciliation in action. It's encouraging for the rest of us, too.

candidlynuts

good luck with your plan..

i really don't see a reason to tell your family anything about your sexuality at this point.

1. you're still confused yourself

2. you're still technically married to amanda and can remind family of that when they pressure you to date.

3, you've got a crapload of stress on the inside still , why would you want to increase the external stress?

take care and tread wisely! hugs

Q. Bert

I think the thread needs a new name. May I suggest this as its name: The united Junction plan, as it unfolds

What I think so far is that the junction couple will be deciding is that it's not about luck, or sexuality, or confusion; rather, it's about being friends, teamwork, and facing each other with love and a warm smile and compassion. Friends spend time together on their own terms, stand up for each other, and work at good communication (an evolving art).

TLC (tender loving care) and a wise, loving choice of words, oh, and a beauty/handsome sleep to each of you (whichever applies).

— Q. Bert

junctions-wife

It would be a long time coming before Dave and I fully get back in the swing of things if ever. You see yes, we are still married and yes there is still a strong bond between us, and love there. But it is a different kind of love for me now. I have not really moved on. Because I wasn't raise that way. But in the past I have. And Dave still has to come to terms with that. He may have forgotten but he has never forgiven. So yes I made mistakes huge ones. I turned to someone else when I felt that I wasn't loved or needed. I honestly think it was harder for me to deal with all the deamons going on in his head that it was to deal with life. I no longer was his obession or passion. And I was miserable. Dave is a great guy who deserves happiness and love. I think when he came looking for me he didn't know what he was getting. I wasn't sweet and inocent by no means. But I wasn't the school tramp either. But I could recall not fitting in at school or anywhere. I still don't fit in. And I am okay with that. Life goes on. And right now Dave has to heal from the hurt from his dad, stepmom, stepdad, mom, grandpa, and his JW family. His non-JW family in KY are the best. They are what family should be. Supportive and caring. Kinda like my family.

But I will sign off now. As this unfolds a little more I will share my side of the story and maybe a little more about my background.

Amanda

Q. Bert

LittleToe

Re: just a note to say hello and good-bye

Post 15214 of 16492
since 12-Sep-01

5 y 3 m 3 d

Frannie:

And just remember, our lives aren't really ruined, only wasted for a while. It's what we choose to do from this day forward that will make our lives a success.

It's not often I stumble across quotes that I want to keep, but that one's a keeper, thanks

Q. Bert says: It was a good reminder then. It's a good reminder now. Frannie is a keeper, for sure. She has some great lines.

junctions-wife

bttt

Junction-Guy

Hi Amanda, I see you are awake and posting.

Yeah we do have alot of obstacles, first of all she is in Kansas taking care of her grandma, and I am in Tennessee.

Second I dont when and how I will leave here, I want to move to either Ohio or Kentucky. If we were to stay here, things might change, but mostly Im unhappy here.

We would have so many issues to work out, not just the sexual one.

But we can keep in contact and maybe see where it leads.

junctions-wife

Yes we have lots of challenges in line for us. I won't be on long today since I have to go to work. I hate that four letter word "work". The most important thing is for you to heal and deal with you. Who knows after this is all said and done we may understand why we split. And you may find out that I really wasn't the one for you. We may never know. I am going to try come back to TN for a week once my vacation time allows it. That is if I can afford it. I'll have to fly and stay at a hotel. So I really don't know.

talk later

Amanda

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