With an elder looking for another notch on his belt (DFing), don't assume what they say matches their actual reaction. They'll act all pleasant and agreeable to get you to spill the beans. They'll "paraphrase" what you say into something they can use against you. Be very careful when dealing with 2 at a time, because that will fulfill the '2 witness' rule. Also, according to the Flock book, 2 witnesses of similar conduct on separate occasions is acceptable evidence against you. So, if your daughter tells the elders you're an Apostate tm and an elder will back it up, that's all they need.
As far as him denying things about the organization we all know to be true, that's part of the 1984 mentality. They learn 2 entirely different sets of doctrine: One for the public (and denial) and another for the congregation (and accusation). Why do you think articles that tell us we have no leader other than Christ will, in the next paragraph, tell us how we have to follow 7 old men in NY? It's like dealing with Sybil (the woman with multiple personalities).
I can understand wanting to vent, but I can assure you it's falling on deaf ears. One doesn't become an elder by being open-minded or even very bright. One becomes an elder, in recent years, by being a boot-licker to the Society. Most elders I've talked to pretty much only know one scripture: "Do what we tell you, dog!" - Heb 13:17
