My marriage was an endurance race, but for what reward? Spending all of eternity with this guy? Submission fuels the fire of an egomaniac. It was surviving, not living, and I was a slave, but at the KH he was busy with his stuff, and I had the gift of gab to distract myself and others from the emotional vacuum I had at home. Seventeen years of this academy award winning performance. The words "long-suffering" still make me gag...like Jehovah wanted me to be miserable to prove my love to him. Exhausting and exasperating. If there were no consequences to divorce in the congregation, half would be running to the courthouse. Open up to someone about what is really going on in your life and the floodgates open up about their marriages.
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How many happy JW marriages do you know of?
by Bonnie_Clyde injust reading frequent flyer miles on the subject of feeling guilty for having a happy marriage with a non-jw.. in our congregation which i haven't attended for about a year, i can only think of two or three who seem to be happy.
of course, i don't know what happens behind closed doors, but i know of several who admit they are unhappy.
i wrote out a long list of couples who have divorced over the last 20 years--including three elders (one is on his second divorce).
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The results of Dr. Laura's parenting
by sixsixsixtynine inhttp://www.sltrib.com/ci_5934072.
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http://bigheaddc.com/2007/06/02/the-shocking-photo-that-prompted-army-to-investigate-dr-lauras-son/.
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Mike Paul BETTER come up with something good...gotta avoid the bitch-slap! Did the enemies fiddle-faddle with Dr. Laura's naked internet pics years ago too? Pranksters!
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Guilt over a happy marriage
by Frequent_Fader_Miles inlong before i began my fade, there was a certain "sister" in the congo who married a non-jw man.
she was very happily married despite of all the forecasts of "doom and gloom" among the "friends".
how sad it was to hear her make the following comment in conversation - "sometimes i feel badly about marrying an unbeliever, since other sisters may look at me and follow my example.
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I was in a miserable marriage to an elder for 17 years...should I carry that like a badge of honor? If given the opportunity, half the witnesses would divorce their "mate" if it wouldn't be considered an act of disobedience. Marrying an unbeliever is being disobedient since the Isrealites were told not to...blah blah blah...it boils down to 'if you can love HIM, you may love the rest of the human race, and since Jehover will be slaughtering them all you may come to resent this, so...I have also heard happily married , "unevenly yoked" sisters say, "I am happy now, but we will be separated at Armegeddon and I will pay for my disobedience then. This is a real sore point with me.
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Prepare to be disgusted(more jw e-mails)
by darth frosty inthis one is the best.. this is an experience from one of our sisters from athens spanish that went to italy and greece to serve.
she relates this experience that i thought was really interesting.
she asked him why, and he replied, how can i question the man if i have not read them myself.. .
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How many times has it happened where somebody yelled at you and you were crying about it that night? Did you ever write down the address of somebody who wasn't interested? If a mafia boss came to your door would you 1. know he was a mafia boss? or 2. be happy to see him? It's quite the load...
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August 15th Watchtower 2007: 1935 A GENTLE REMINDER
by AlphaOmega inlest you forget.... .
this provides another chance to highlight the change.. .
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The number of annointed not going down year after year posed a problem for me after 20 years of waiting for it to happen. The year 1935 and the sudden discovery of a great crowd not annointed also seemed contrived. As time goes on, the organization hopes those who knew what the doctrines were years ago will die off and the new recruits won't know any difference.
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Punished by our “friends” for the letter we sent.
by LennyinBluemont insome of you may have read our exit letter from august of last year which we sent to about 50 of our close jw "friends", many of whom we had been very close to for decades.
we just told them what we had learned regarding the un scandal and provided all the documentation.
we never disassociated ourselves, nor have we been disfellowshipped.
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Not only have I seen businesses built up by the use of witness contacts, but literal homes built with the labor of brothers and then later sold at a large profit. It is usually wealthy brothers who do this over and over again. Brilliant plan following suit of the mother organization. I do wonder why nothing was done by the elders after this letter was sent. Usually any questioning or bad attitude sends the body of elders on the rampage.
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Another J W e mail
by NikL ini noticed another thread on this site relaying a stupid e mail making the rounds of dubdom.. well i just got this one and i thought i would share.... powerful illustration.
after the prayer, the local elder slowly stood up, walked up to the.
platform and, before he gave his public talk, he briefly introduced a guest.
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I am continuously amazed at the clearity of reasoning that comes out when we hold these things up to the light. I believe it's called deductive reasoning...interesting to see what people come up with.
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Another J W e mail
by NikL ini noticed another thread on this site relaying a stupid e mail making the rounds of dubdom.. well i just got this one and i thought i would share.... powerful illustration.
after the prayer, the local elder slowly stood up, walked up to the.
platform and, before he gave his public talk, he briefly introduced a guest.
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For one thing, those boys would never have approached this man, for another, the guy would never have told this story without taking credit for the results in front of the whole congregation. A similar story involved a train full of people about to jump track on a bridge where the father had to make a split decision in sacrificing his son.
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Do you remember this saying...?
by Flowerpetal inregarding worldly associations:.
"the worst jw in the org.
is better than the best person in the world..".
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There has to be a strict division between US and THEM to separate the good and the bad in the org. There should be no involvement at all with the worldly because if you love them, or even like them, there may be some resentment towards Jehovah's plans in their destruction. My favorite visual was at an assembly where the speaker said all worldly people should be considered dead right now...fall in love with one, kiss him, and it will be just like kissing a corpse...sometimes the things they say are so crazy it works against them eventually.
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THE UNIVERSE - What do you now believe about it?
by Black Man ini was watching this documentary on the various galaxies and it stated that the universe is still expanding, planets are being created as we speak.
it also detailed some of the planets within our solar system and some beyond it and speculated how some were favorable for habitation and that some show evidence of having a water supply.
what do you believe about the universe?
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It was the vastness of the Universe that made me wonder if it was possible that Jesus Christ came here to give his life to save this planet "once for all time". Was it possible that we were the only life in all the Universe? What if somebody else on another planet sinned? Are they out of luck because Jesus already saved us? These thoughts started to make the whole Bible look ridiculous.